Friday, January 8, 2010

I know this is a common thing for teens, but I would like advice about a girl. What should I do?

I'm 18, about to finish High School, just got promoted to manager at work, and I guess everything's going well. I had a girlfriend about a year and a half ago. We went out for about 3 years. I have tried to ask out 3 different girls since then and have had no luck. I have very low confidence when it comes to girls. I've tried to just say I give up, but I miss having someone to talk to and be around intimately (not sexually.) The girls, I've been interested in, I haven't even thought about that way. At work, there is this girl who is perfect. She's seriously the most beautiful girl I've ever seen(especially when she smiles), she's funny, smart, and is perfect. She doesn't have a boyfriend and hasn't talked about any potentials. I was just gonna see if anyone had any advice or if I should probably just leave it alone, I don't see how I could have a chance, but it still makes me wonder. ThanksI know this is a common thing for teens, but I would like advice about a girl. What should I do?
Be yourself. Just be kind.Smile for her. Talk to her. Ask her about the things she likes. If you think she's so beautiful let her know. don't say it in a way that would suggest anything,but let her know truthfully how you feel. Woman like the fact that a man has the courage to talk to her. You never know,she might like you too. Good luck.I know this is a common thing for teens, but I would like advice about a girl. What should I do?
go for it and try
One thing a girl likes to see in guy is confidence. You have to raise your self-esteem and confidence. If you really like this girl, then you have to talk to her or else you will never know. You dont want to be left wondering. Go for it.

What is the best advice you can give a teen involved in alcohol substance abuse?

Give the best advice for a random teen involved in alcohol substance abuse.





Teen alcohol substance abuse is not only illegal, but is rising among many problems society face today.





Every answer is appreciated. Best answer will be chosen Saturday morning.





Thank you,


VioletWhat is the best advice you can give a teen involved in alcohol substance abuse?
';if you have any respect for your self,your family and the others who love and care for you then STOP,because you are involved in something which,if caught,can ruin your whole life and put you to disgrace.it is not worth it.please drop it.';this is what i would say.What is the best advice you can give a teen involved in alcohol substance abuse?
to tell someone that they trust and work with that person to get better! It will be hard but worth the hard work!
I'm a teen. I know the pressures. I'm at parties with alchohol a lot.


If you're social and fun, you don't need a drink to have fun trust me. First of all, it tastes bad. Second of all, if its hard liquor, it burns ur throat. plus, it can make u do a lot of things that u'll regret
It doesn't really matter if its illegal or not. If I wanted to do something that was illegal, consider it done. Being Illegal/legal won't stop anybody from doing it.





It just depends on the teenager, I used to drink at parties and on weekends alot when I was 14-17. I had a high alcohol tolerance, I was never addicted to it, but I knew some people that were. It is really up to them to stop, no one else can really change the choices they make.
sit them down and make them watch videos, with their parents, about accidents family went through because of teenage drinking and driving. it's sad and disgusting to see the way cars come out, and not even being able to find the body.... it's something that once you see, you know you don't want to be there.
take them to visit a detox unit dealing with alcohol abuse or have a look at the streets at the alcoholics who have lost everything.

How to deal with ex's new baby - teens please, your advice welcomed?

Well, to cut a long story short, while we were temporarily living in another country my husband left me for a local woman half my age. I returned to our home country with our two sons - my husband had given me full custody. Since then he and his new partner have had a baby girl.This is especially hard for me since our first child was also a girl but died three weeks after birth. The seflish and hurt part of me wants my sons to reject their father, but the sensible mom part of me wants them to have a good relationship with him and ultimately to accept and even have a relationship with their sister. The mother of the new baby is a gold-digger who is with my husband for his money; the baby is her meal ticket, but that's not the baby's fault. How do I deal with this to heal my own hurt and at the same time recognise this other woman's baby as in some way a member of my family? I wd especially like to see advice from young people who have been through something similar with their parents.How to deal with ex's new baby - teens please, your advice welcomed?
Instead of dwelling on the bad you see in it dwell on the good that came out of it.





This new child is not a member of your family dear. She is a member of their family and a step-sister to your son's since their father helped birth her. No relation to you whatsoever.





You opinion of this woman even if she was no all you say she is would be tarnished just because your husband left you for her. Right?





Instead of making justification of your feelings move on with your life and make the best of it for you and the two boys you have custody of. They are innocent in all the drama and do not deserve to be influenced by your views on it.





You have been asking about this in different ways on here for some time now. It is time for you to move on and reflect on you and live your life for you and the children, not on all the bad of the past. Nothing will change that.





You can however change the future.





Additional Comment:





Forgive and forget.





To ';forgive and forget'; is one of those cliches that people say so often without really thinking about the depth of the words. Forgiving is an action that pertains to something that has been done against you in the past, while forgetting is an action that you must choose to do in the future. To ';forgive and forget'; is no easy thing. To truly ';forgive';, we must see ourselves as less important than the person who has wronged us. We must be able to say that we do not expect judgment against, or payment for the wrong. In all honesty, I do not think we are ever able to ';forget'; a harmful thing that has been done to hurt us. What some of us are able to achieve, though, is a decision to remember without the agony of bitter, hurtful feelings. Thus, to ';forgive and forget'; is controlled solely by our own desire to let go of things in the past, and to walk into our future unencumbered by the burden of others' actions.





In all honesty, no matter how hard we try, we will never forget. And maybe it's a good thing that we don't.








Forgiving is allowing another person to be human for faults, mistakes, or misdeeds. Forgetting is putting these behind you; they are no longer brought up and no longer remain a barrier to your relationship.





Forgiving is letting another know that there is no grudge, hard feelings, or animosity for any wrongdoing. Forgetting is the lack of further discussion, with no ongoing negative references to the event.





Forgiving is letting the other person know that you accept as genuine the remorse and sorrow for actions or words that hurt or disappointed you. Forgetting is promising that this deed, whether of omission or commission, will not be brought up again.





He does not have to be the one to know you forgive. God needs to know and then God will hold everything bad you are carrying around making your life miserable because you won't let it go.





It is the past and you need to let the past go and live for the future.





Your choice here. Just do it!





You are doing more harm than good by letting your feelings filter down to the children. It is not fair to them. They are innocent in all the drama. They did not ask for it. They deserve better.





Think about it.





Additional Comment #2:





Your third comment on here put it all in a nutshell. Everything you feel about yourself is keeping you from being the person you should be. You have beat yourself up to a point of ';no return';, in your view. How you feel about yourself reflects how you choose to live your life.





Try these ten helpful steps to finding the love within you for you and begin to feel better about you. Then you see dear, others will as well.





Try them! They really work.








1. Stop all criticism: Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.





2. Don't scare yourself: Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.





3. Be gentle and kind and patient: Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient


with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you


really loved.





4. Be kind to your mind: Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change the thoughts.





5. Praise yourself: Criticism breaks the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.





6. Support yourself: Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends, and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.





7. Be loving to your negatives: Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So. lovingly release the old negative patterns.





8. Take care of your body: Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.





9. Mirror work: Look into your own eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day, say: ';I love you, I really love you!';





10. LOVE YOURSELF - DO IT NOW! Don't wait until you get well or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin NOW - do the best you can.





We can only do so much from this end. The rest is up to you.How to deal with ex's new baby - teens please, your advice welcomed?
I am twenty and yes I can say parents can influence there kids. Sometimes they dont even notice it. A snide comment here and there from your mom and soon you think your father are all those things your mom said.





What I think all you can really do, is continue to be there mom. I wished my mother would have talked a lot more about what she was going through to me so I could see and feel what she was thinking instead of wondering.


Yet, with my father he was honest and up front making sure it was not us he left but my mother. I for a long time thought him weak and fickle minded for his explanation. My relationship with him suffered because I listened to my mother when she was talking with her friends or to herself. How much she hated my father. she never said these things out right to me, but she did not censor herself around her friends and family. so I heard I took it in and I applied all of it to my father so I relationship almost died.


My advice if I had any to you, is be careful what you say to anyone your kids might be listening yet be honest with them. Explain (depending on there age) what you feel (without bashing there father or his new wife) And continue to live there life. You can not force a huge big family. It will happen if its is meant to.
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  • Paint colour advice- teen boy room?

    I am having my room painted but cant think of a good colour combination. What color is good for 19 year old boy. Somebody recommend greys but they are just too dry 4 me. My room is medium sized so i can only use dark color on one wall. The ceiling i think would b white.





    Please give some good ideas. Two colors would be fine. But keep in mind im want color that is cool yet it goes with everything and every weather.Paint colour advice- teen boy room?
    You could get some good ideas by looking on pottery barn teen.....pbteen.com





    They have all the latest fashionalbe room decor for teens both girl and boy.





    They use really good color combos.Paint colour advice- teen boy room?
    play around with the Sherwin Williams color visualizer to find something that you like. It is the best paint visualizer on the web, imho. I like how their color palette is laid out, I like that you can search by color family %26amp; color name, the ';painted'; rooms look the most realistic, and it suggests coordinating color schemes. You can literally spend hours:


    http://sherlink.sherwin.com/swapp/color_鈥?/a>





    How about greens? Like ';basque green'; (# 6426) for one wall, and then ';honeydew'; (# 6248) for the rest?
    earth tones like brown, tan, sage, green are very calm and soothing and also masculine.
    Depends what you are like


    I guess Black and navy blue or


    A bright red and bright orange


    still depends
    Tan and navy blue
    black and red

    Start an advice column for teens?????

    I want to start a advice column for teenagers. I am a teen myself who has been through a lot and want to help others. I was thinking of going to my school paper OR I kind of wanted to do one online!


    How do I start my own website???


    Is it free?


    And how do I get publicity?Start an advice column for teens?????
    Freewebs.com is a good free website buidler that is easy to use.





    You can start getting publicity by using linkswap sites and search engine submission sites.





    Also try telling friends about the site and letting people know about your site on forums or websites (if the site allows) by asking them to visit.





    You can also ask any people that visit your site if they could try to get people they know to come to the site.





    All of the above can be done through professional pay sites also that may produce better results.





    Here is a website link with more tips on increasing website traffic (publicity): http://www.wikihow.com/Increase-Website-鈥?/a>Start an advice column for teens?????
    Well there are a number of options available for you.


    One of the best would be to simply start a blog on blogger, put your e-mail address on it, and answer questions as they come. This would be the easiest, and most affordable (as it is free, and takes little time to start and work on).





    You could also use a free web hosting service, but for people to easily find you, you will need to buy a domain name.


    They cost $10 a year, $15 to keep your identity safe.


    To get publicity you can pass out flyers at school, put some on a bulletin board, ask libraries to give out fliers, etc.


    You can also advertise in the newspaper classifieds.
    {ut lots of links to professionals so you people get proper advice for starters not any tom dick or harry advice.





    if you email is open can send you lots of helpful stuff... will try and post it here but not enough room





    Website: www.stonewall.org.uk


    TEENAGE HEALTH FREAK


    www.teenagehealthfreak.org


    Questions from real teenagers, answered by experts, plus lots of other information.





    THE SITE


    www.thesite.org.uk


    Site run by the charity Youth Net, with fact sheets, support and guidance for young adults on sex and relationships.





    copy stuff from here sorry about the source but best list of sex terms


    http://www.punterlink.co.uk/guide.htm





    SEXWISE


    Tel: 0800 28 29 30


    www.ruthinking.co.uk


    Free confidential advice and information on sex, relationships and contraception, for anyone under 18.





    www.brook.org.uk


    http://www.mariestopes.org.uk/Content/Womens_services/Emergency_contraception.aspx





    ABORTION PILL


    http://www.ru486.com/topics/articles/article_73.asp





    http://www.channel4.com/learning/microsites/L/lifestuff/content/up_close/letstalksex/index.html


    http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/factsheet/fsest.htm
    some are free, I suggest something at school, or facebook, myspace, etc.





    I admire your willing to help others. Can you check out my questions I have asked please?





    But anyway, school paper, email a small publication magazine, if you can help others everyone is willing to help you do that!








    Good luck!! :)
    -Facebook


    -Myspace


    -School Paper


    -Local Newspaper


    -A Teen Magasine





    Are medians I would suggest. Having you're own website would be hard to manage and extremley expensive (拢30 a month) you need to research it. Maybe you can help peer-mentoring at school or an outreach project in the community?
    to tell WE DON'T CARE WE JUST CRY IT ALL THE WAY TILL ITS GONE jk na sounds cool um to get out like just leave up posters at your school and stuff. It simple or like just like have as a web sight talking about high school life of other kids.


    um i don't think this helps at all sorry i got nothing better.
    I'm not sure about how to make a website... but you could make a blog... www.blogspot.com ... or a facebook group.... Both are where people can comment to ask questions and things... its a good idea, teenagers would benefit from it. Goodluck
    Make a site, and advertise on sites which will cost a little.


    I'd say that's the only way, but i hope you know what you're talking about, instead of one of those whiny little cunts who ';Was dumped, waahh';.
    hey i think its a good idea that you want to do this.


    for ur own website i think it does cost money, but why dont you try, facebook groups and myspace these are still ur own information, just not ur own personal site.

    Thursday, December 31, 2009

    Names? Advice from other teens with doggies!!!?

    There are 3 very young pups that my friend is giving away...her dog just had a litter and her mom said she can keep 2....so 3 are left over. She said she'd give them to me.





    I like Pinto, Fritz and Cujo for the names. What do you think?Names? Advice from other teens with doggies!!!?
    Well i have 6dogs here are my dogs names





    1. penlie (It means problem it thai)


    2. Pepper


    3. Pom


    4.White





    5.. Nicknoi( It means Little bit it in thai)





    6. Veraw (A german guy had her but he got murder and he lived next door to use so e took her in)








    Nicknoi';s real name is shiloh





    and penlie's nickname is pen or pen pen





    Pinto is ok dont like cujo and dont like fritz





    hope i help and aww cute. :)





    you could have angel, echo, lilih,and in the past my dogs names have been





    Sadie, Emma, Puffer, Big wall, Lady, Pepples.Cheekco





    cheeko is a spanish name meaning my little boy or there is





    cheeka is a spaniish name meaning my little girlNames? Advice from other teens with doggies!!!?
    I've had dogs named Cheeto, Vito, Ruby, Angel, and Raiderette. My friends' dogs' names are Peanut, Butch, Cassidy, Lizzie, Joey, Katie, Zig, Mila, and Roxy.





    Of course, it's really up to what your dog looks like and it's breed. :] I wouldn't name a dog who has a solid color ';Spotty';, etc.
    what kind of dogs are they?





    because i think its funny and cute if big dogs have small names and small dogs have big names. i knew someone with a saint bernard, named bo. my chihuahua who weighs 4 lbs is named penelope.





    if they are medium sized, try a name like ralph, clide, fred. girls, molly, sadie.
    I like them :)





    My dogs names are Max and Nirvana (after the band) and I'm getting another dog soon who will be Billy if I get a boy, or Billie Jean if I get a girl (Michael Jackson song, yeah?)
    Love Cujo, I like Roufus, Champion.





    Or you could do HOT dog, CHILI dog, and CHEESE dog. LOL. that'd be cute, hot, chili, and cheese.
    i really don't like the name Cujo.


    have you read 'cujo' by stephan king?


    its about a rabid killer dog named that, a lot of people associate that name with dangerous dogs
    I love the names!





    I have twin weiner dogs, a boy and a girl the boy is Ickett and the girl is Izabella!!!
    I love them! Adorable
    hahaha cujo!! %26lt;333





    I love the names, they are unique!!!


    my sis in law has a choco lab, his name is coco puffs.
    I like the name's...Rambo, Pluto and Cujo is cool

    Whats the best site to go to to help teens with problems or give advice besides here?

    Just trying to make a difference.Whats the best site to go to to help teens with problems or give advice besides here?
    Well im not sure if your Canadian or not, but try out Kids Help Phone, it's not really a site where you can give out advice, but its a company, try talking to them and maybe see if you can get a job with them if that is what you are interested in...Whats the best site to go to to help teens with problems or give advice besides here?
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