As an adult, I would like to say to you, yes be who you are but I cannot, because when you are young, you think you know yourself but you really do not. Your parents are trying hard to give you the world, education and Independence. But when a young person thinks they know who they are, and does not want to experience anything else, they limit themselves into seeing the world through only one shade and color. There are many lovely shades and colors out there all waiting for you to enjoy. You will never know how much you can enjoy something unless you try it. Why do you want to limit yourselve so young and not experience life at such a young age. Why limit yourselve of growth. Many people who have limited themselves in their young believing they knew themselves grew up in becoming very boring people, with no imagination or depth.
Give yourself a chance for growth, and freedom. Why do you want to limit yourself, into being this or that when you have not fully grown, and have not even seen the world.
Take time and read, get an education and listen to your parents. They are not parents for nothing, at their age, they have learned a thing or two.
Give yourself a chance to dress in all the colors of the rainbow, to laugh and experience everything there is out there. One day when you are old, as you will be one day, you will not say, ';I wish I had done this or that, or worn that color when I was young'; You will have no regrets. You lived life to the Fullest.
Remember Live, Love, and Laugh. Life is too short to get fixated on one style at such a young age. Give your parents a break, you say they love you, so think if they love you would they want what is wrong for you.
Good Luck. Gof for it. Taste LifeNeed Parents or Teens advice about being who I am?
You said they love everything about you - so Im assuming you already cary that rocker/punk/ect.. look now days. Im sure they set limits for cuz that what parents are for....if you already have that image, and want to do more to push the image...Talk to them...maybe you guys can agree on a middle somewhere.
I think it is great that you know who you are and want to express it. One of the hardest things in life is to be yourself. People have always and will always try to avoid anything that is different from what they think things should be like. You are an individual and no one can tell you who you should be. Including your parents. However, they will always try and once you are an adult they may come to accept the person you are. I am sure they have reasons for the restrictions they set. Just ask them to explain why they choose the restrictions they did and tell them you deserve to know why. It may be reasons you haven't even thought of. Ex. if you wanted a tattoo and they stay no with no explanation. That is not good enough. They should be explaining why they think you shouldn't get one. You may regret it when you are older or may not have the same interest that you do now. I told my son, who is a teenager now, if I would have let him get a tattoo when he was younger, he would had a tattoo of Power Rangers. Try and explain that one to your friends. lol He would have been stuck with that for the rest of his life. I don't know what kind of restrictions they have set for you, but just ask them to explain why so that you can understand and just maybe it will make sense to you.
baby girl, they are just be a typical parents. back in the days, their parent didn't agree with the way they tried to express themselves either. non of us are the huxtable family (the cosby show). just keep being who you are. keep trying to discover what you want out of life. there is nothing strange going on here.
Just do you baby but always respect your parents
Of course they set restrictions, that's what parents do. My son would love to wear jeans that hang half way down his butt (why, I have NO clue), but as long as he's under my supervision he won't do it (because I think it looks ridiculous). When he turns 18, he can dress however he wants.
What kind of questions are they avoiding? You said: ';questions about who i am';. Why are you asking them who you are? Don't you know (at least to some degree) who you are?
By the way--it's very nice to hear a teen say ';I love my parents'; :)
Great question! I am a parent of a teenage daughter so I know exactly what your parents are going through. We as parents only want the best for our children, and of course we know what that is. Just let your parents know that even though you dress and look differently than they want you too, that you are still the daughter they love and the daughter that loves them. I know its hard being a teenager growing up, but please know that it is harder being a parent and having your teenager growing up.
Remember they love you and want only the best for you.
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