I cant get my words accross, please help me out Late teens + Females advice would be extermely appreciated?

im a 19 year old guy who is apparently really decent, nice and good looking. i really like this girl and she says she likes me but has been messing me around by not making effort for me at all. I dont want to end what we have completely but things dont look so good at the moment.


if i said..... look i really like you so much but i really dont feel as though you make any effort for me. Until you are ready for anything to happen im going to leave it because i have waited so long for you. But please dont do anything that will hurt me or lose my respect for you because i think you are fantastic.


is that a nice way to say it? im worried that she would go and do things with some guy who doesnt like me and has the hots for her to get at me though.I cant get my words accross, please help me out Late teens + Females advice would be extermely appreciated?
I'm a 23 year old female, this is my p.o.v. of your situation... hope it helps! :) You sound like a really sweet guy. You should expect the same effort from her that you put out there. I don't think this girl respects you, I think she will treat you like a doormat until you lay down the law.





If you say all that and she goes and messes with that other guy, then is she really the right girl for you? I don't think so.I cant get my words accross, please help me out Late teens + Females advice would be extermely appreciated?
well...it will be her loss....just let her know how you feel....and wat you wrote...thats a real good way to let her know....be completely honest....in time she will realize that you were probably the right guy for her!! ;)
That sound good to say, really good actually. That's you stepping up and being the bigger person. Maybe she's not ready for commitment, but I know everyone hates to hear ';leave her/him alone';, but if she would do something to try and get to you then leave her alone. You seem like to nice of a guy to let someone do that to you. Good luck!
Don't say anything to her, just move on. If she wanted to be with you, she'd be with you, not messing around with other guys.





What she's doing is keeping you on the back burner until she wants you. That's not fair to you. I wouldn't say anything to her, I'd just accept that this is the person she is, maybe one day she'll come around, but don't hold your breath.





Sometimes when you lose something you've been taking for granted, you realize how much it means to you. Hopefuly this is the case for you.





Good luck :)
that is a really nice way of showing her that you like her but she is treating you badly. but i don't think shes worth it otherwise she wouldnt have messed you around
I think what u wanna tell her is spot on and if she decided to go with your mates to ';get back at you'; shes childish and NOT worth it, you do sound like a nice guy. all the best