i went through the same things last year. i am currently in 8th grade,almost 14 and last year i was in a class where all the girls were two-faced and picked on me. i hate to see anybody have to go through this because i know it hurts. i was not good at any sports so this year i changed to a bigger school with a bunch of extra things you could be in such as band, one act play, BETA (an organization for highly talented kids), UIL. I am not your average girly girl that is popular and is liked by all the boys. I was the one being picked on. I had no self esteem but when I got to tired of being picked on, i couldn't do it anymore. I went home crying everyday from being called FAT and people being jealous just because I happened to be the smartest girl in the class.
Does your son have any special talents or activites he likes?
If so, try looking for a school that offers this talent. My mom encouraged me that in this world there are people who care, you just have to look for them.
Since I have moved schools, I have gained a load of confidence and self esteem. I have learned that not everyone is going to be nice at first, but just show them the true you and it will all work out. I now have friends I can depend on and they can depends on me.
I hope this helps.
Good luck!
Tell your son, just to believe in himself.I need advice from teens?
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Sometimes these feelings of depression are actually chemical disturbances in the brain - and cannot be fixed by simple counselling or lifestyle changes. Have you been to see the doctor? This is really important, because depression often goes untreated because people dont realise that its a serious illness; a side effect of it can be the fact that he does not want to go to school too - or why he has troube to socialise with the other kids (feeling shy, unable to defend himself, etc).
I had the same prob growing up - and I was picked on a lot too. It was related mostly to adolescence and hormonal changes - which was reeking havoc on my brain - and how I was feeling. I was medicated at the time - which proved to be a huge relief and helped me to then be able to talk about why I was having trouble to go to school, why I felt miserable and to work on my self esteem.
My younger brother committed suicide however, and I can tell you now that I regret to have not taken him to see a doctor at the time, and to not have been able to stop him from making his choice.
Go and get medical help - especially if suicidal thoughts are involved.
And be there to listen - no matter what. Although I'm sure you would be a great parent already from the fact you are so concerned about your son.
Good luck...
I was bullied when i was his age, luckily it was never sever enough for me to even contemplate suicide and the bully gave up when a girl i know became friends with her. I think you should arrange another meeting with the school, the headteacher, and make sure they are fully aware of the seriousness of this. If they continue to do nothing try and find another school for him to attend. Let him know that you love him and keep communicating with him.
wow this is identical to my older brother. when my brother was 12 he was so badly bullied that he did commit suicide. 10 months before he died he threatened it. this is very serious. if the school wont do any thing about it you have to, its not a joke. ive been through it and it is disgusting and not fair. my brother was on medicine, seeing a psychiatrist and we have complained to the school about what was happening. you have to protect him..
well to get his self esteem up you can put him in a sport. that way he can make friends and build up confidence. tell him to ignore those who bother him. he is better than they are. ask him to involve in certain school activities. being a teenager is great fun, the more he moves through life the more friends he will make. good luck :)
ask him if he wants to move.
try putting him in extra activities, sports may not be his thing, try telling him to take up guitar (which tons of girls find attractive, plus he'll make new friends from it) or drawing, photography.
he just needs to find something he loves doing, and you need to support him. put him before everything so that he feels important.
he doesn't need any professionals, he needs friends.
try signing him up for a pen pal, that would actually work really well.
good luck :)
maybe ask him if he wants to go to another school? ask him if he wants to improve: new clothes, a haircut, etc. my best bet is another school. he can have a new beggining, and make new freinds along the way. tween years are tough, but they get better. once he gets to high school, he could switch schools. tell him not to give up, and that god is looking after him.
I am not a teen , but I feel bad for him after hearing your story, because alot of teen commit sucide because of being bullied, it is horrible. I would say buy him some hip new threads :) and get him enrolled in a new school.
They sucide comment is very serious and he needs out of that situation.
Wish him and you luck
I was never picked on really but I do have to move all over and it's hard to make friends. If he has been to that school for a long time then maybe going to another school will help him. That way he can start over new. Middle school is really tough. Once you're in high school it will get a whole lot easier!
Good luck!
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A lot more help then a chat on a couch with a councillor.
Plus find him other sports...
break dancing, parkour, skateboarding, absiling find what he is good at.
Or find a coffin
you should put him in a mental hospital asap for major help!! you should also consider switching his school
homeschool?
maybe you could move him to a different school were he can have a fresh start and make new friends. (:
put him on online school? connectionsacademy.com %26lt;-- thats the one im going to and its very good. lots of feild trips and lots of nice accepting students.
:)
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