Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Does anyone have advice on teens dating and not being able to communicate?

i am 15 and so is my gf. she is having trouble opening up to me but i love her and i am pretty sure she feels the same about me. is there any advice that you could give me to help her or to somehow promt her to talk to me? i have tryed everything i could think of and now i am stuck trying to figure out a way to get her to talk to me. we have been dating for 5 months now. when we first statred we could talk about anything but now i guess we have talk our way into the more personal side of each other. i know alot about her but she wont talk to me about all of her life. i have a hard time just getting her to talk about the good times in her life and now i am really strugleing to get her to comunicate some of the moments that werent so good. i talk to her about my life but she wont talk to me about hers. is there anything you can suggest that might help? if so i would really apreciate it alot.Does anyone have advice on teens dating and not being able to communicate?
if she can't talk ... she shouldn't be dating... break up with her and find some one else who's ready.Does anyone have advice on teens dating and not being able to communicate?
You guys are so young and she is prob way confused about what it means to be in a relationship. Don't try to change her. Just be there, talk about your feelings once in a while, She'll see that it's safe for her to do the same everntually. or maybe not, but it will be a growing experience for you both.





At this stage, her priority appears to be safety of who and what she is and isn't ready to share some things. That's fine, just enjoy yourselves.
All you can really do is let her know that want to know everything about her - the good and the bad - and that you won't judge her for the bad (if that's what you truly intend to do). Let her know that you understand she is not ready to talk, but you are always there for her and will be ready to listen whenever she is ready to tell you. If she waits too long, you may just have to explain that a true, loving relationship takes good, honest communication, and if she isn't willing to hold her side of the relationship, it may be best that you separate.
Maybe she just needs time. If you really want her to open up and talk about her life more freely, then I would suggest that you don't pressure her to open up about things she doesn't want to talk about right now. If she really truly cares about you she will open up more and communicate with you better as she gets more comfortable talking about personal stuff. With some girls it just takes longer for them to feel comfortable enough to open up. I personally know that because I was like that with my boyfriend for the longest time. I'm only nineteen and I've been with my boyfriend almost a year and a half now. When we both started going out it took me quite a long time to open up to him about a lot of personal things. It took me close to a year being with him to finally open up about a bunch of things. I have to admit that it did really frustrate him for the longest time. But he really loved and so he was willing to be patient with me. Pretty much what I'm trying to say is if you really care about her just be patient with her. Because if she feels the same way about you, as you feel about her sooner or later she will open up with you. Well good luck.
just wait until you get married and they woman always wants to talk and talk and talk. You'll be yearning for the days when you could sit in silence.

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