Teens/advice?

well my daughter is a pain in the xxx everytime she comes home she is cranky all the time . i do not know y she is 16 yrs old. she has issues. she keeps tellin me im not a mom at times. along time ago i used to spend time wth her all the time takin her out places etc. my mom used to complain about that well i did not want my daughter to have friends at the time to i wanted her to my self. and now when she got a little older in yrs she wanted friends i still said no. i want to take her places. in time came i let her go i let her have her friends and they invite her to their houses or they came here to spend the night at my house. now she wants me to her self its not fair . im doing this cause she has friends to go places wth and talk on the phone. she has to hve her friends not her mom well she needs her mom , not a mom to go out with 24/7 either. that how my daughter thinks. im sick of that.i think she is controlling teenager please help me.Teens/advice?
well, here's the answer...





she's 16.





things will get better but probably not for awhile. my mom and i just started getting along again and i will be 19 this summer. my mom and i fought like there was no tomorrow, and hanging out together was absolutely out of the question. we recently went and saw a movie together and i actually enjoyed my time with her. i talk to her a lot more now and things are just easier between us.


things will get better between you two, just dont get too distant from her but dont crowd her either.


shes just growing and changing. she kinda needs to figure things out for herself?





sorry mommy :(Teens/advice?
From here, you sound remarkably selfish -- everything in this post is how you feel, how dissed you are, how possessive you are. Did you really keep your daughter from having friends as she grew up because you wanted her to yourself? Are you a single mom? Were you trying to use your daughter as a crutch to your own insecurities? Ever heard of the Chinese proverb: ';Be careful what you wish for -- you might get it?'; You wanted a daughter all to yourself, and that's what you got. You can't possibly expect her to undo years of your behavior overnight now that you've decided she needs other friends.





Don't waste time feeling guilty - just stop using your daughter to meet your own emotional needs. She is 16 years old -- one day, she will be remarkably mature and independent, and the next, you will swear she's had a personalilty transplant and is suddenly Atilla the Hun's younger sister.





Of COURSE she is a controlling teenager -- all teenagers are trying to exert control over their lives, and normal ones will continually push the envelope as they grow and mature, trying to test the limites of their emotional maturity.





Be glad she is willing to spend time with you, and that you still have a relationship with her. Don't be in such a hurry to kick her out of the nest -- at 16, she still has a lot ot learn about life, and a loving, attentive mother who knows when to encourage and when to step back is what she needs. You're the one that blurred the line between mom and best buddy -- stop blaming her for it, and start living your own life, so that you and your daughter aren't so interdependent.
i cant. understand what your. saying.
shes just getting older and going through drama most likely.


sit her down and ask her whats wrong and tell her she can tell you anything that your not going to get mad thats all she needs to know that your there and going to be there no matter how bad she messes up.
well if she is 16, then she just wants friends! it wasnt right of you to not allow her anyone but you in her life. thats selfish, did something happen to you as a child? just let her be! she will snap out of it
shes a teenager!..she has those phases...let her have friends..its a big thing now and always....at this age moms are not really ';cool';....and yes they always get into their business and stuff.and i know yall mean well..but i went through the same thing...and now that im older i understand my mom....