Issues with teens/ advice?

my daughter is 17 years old and i keep on telling her needs a job. im tired of her not working . i do not have the money to buy her things. i have too many bills like rent etc. i m havin a hard time findn a job. even looking for a job as a security guard. thats the only job i want. so ya i keep looking everyday I go on interviews and i put my applications everywhere's . so ya im tired of my daughter giving me the guilt trip all the time. she is pushing her luck on me. she is pi... me off . i know all of her friends have jobs and she wiln not get one. the only person in my house has a job is my boyfriend he has 2 jobs it helps but not enough. i need a job. but i do try. my daughter does not. she is very lazy , she has a poor attitude problem and im sick of it. all she does is spend time with her boyfriend 7 days a week , she is never home she is always there . so what can i do? help meIssues with teens/ advice?
One, i would set some ground rules... and follow through... no child deserves to live free if they are not going to school ( and i mean summer breaks are a perfect time to work and save for winter ). So long as she lives under my roof she has to have my permission to leave the house and my permission to spend time with the people i choose... it may be easier said than done, but not doing it is getting you what you are getting... what you don't want... how to stop it, well for starters, the only thing you have to provide is a roof, food, and appropriate clothing... she doesn't need makeup, curling irons, straightners, tv's, cd players, cell phone etc... my children are younger, mine are 13 and 12. when they push me to my limits, not doing what is asked of them, they lose the things that are most important to them... they become mine and when things turn around they can have them back... i have found i am most successful when i put a time limit on how long they will lose it for... like tvs in their rooms... i put them in the hall for X amount of time.. cell phones hurt them the worst... tough love... you are not here to be her friend.. you are here to make her the most responsible person you can.. and her job is to cooperate.Issues with teens/ advice?
Maybe give her an inccentive about getting a job- make it in to a positive experience for her, working is the way of life, not sponging off people. Maybe spend some quality time with her, just you n her. If you drive maybe you can offer to drive her to different job sites that you n her talk about and that she might like. Explain to her that working is a great opportunity to meet new friends, ones that are on the right track. Friends that will actually have enough money to do fun stuff. Maybe its her boyfriend that is holding her back, maybe talk with her about that. Being lazy in life will get you nothing in life, she's gotta want more for herself n future than what she has right now, nothing. Good luck. Just try talking , helping, n listening to her, then put in your opinion. Give her a few days to think about it, then try again if it doesnt work, dont give up on her, n eventually she will see you love her unconditionally.
Sit down with her and talk to her. Ask her why she doesnt want to get a job and speak to her about what she wants to do with her life.





Stop giving her any money for anything, if she lives under your roof she has what she needs (food water and shelter) tell her if she wants anything special .. clothes, accessories, money to go out to the movies whatever she does tell her she has to get a job.





She will hate you im sure for not giving her what she wants .. but that is how she will learn..





(its what my mum did to me.. i got a job straight away as soon as she told me i couldnt have anything.. i hated her and stuff.. but love her now for is and im 23)
Well I think you should talk to her


If that doesn't work don't let her go out


Punish her for example don't give her money


You must be harsh


tell her if she stays like this she won't get money or go out.


She's only 17 she's immature





Hope it helps


Good luck
this may be harsh, but what you need to do is to give her a lecture- or even just yell at her.


tell her you're sick of her bbeing lazy and how hard it is on you. tell her if she doesn't at least try to get a job, threaten to keep her from seeing her boyfriend
wow!! my sis is the same way but she dont gotta bf she justs watches t.v. me and my parents been telling her to get a job and every time we do she starts cussing and saying things. i got my girl and daughter to support but im also helping my parents pay bills i no the stress ur going through im looking for another job as well to help out. my sis is 21 since their young and wanna have fun tell her u cant buy or give her money cuz u got bills. try taking her to apply at stores she likes to shop in or u could take her to the mall to apply cuz alot of teens like to work at the mall. trust i use to work at the mall it was a fun part time job. try taking her for real
Cut her off. No money, no cell phone, nothing but the essentials. No TV in her room, no iPod, no internet, nothing. Give her food, water, clothing and shelter only.





She'l soon get pi$$y and want to know why she can't use the internet, frankly tell her, she dosen't pay for it. I'd go as far as taking the lightbulb out of the ceiling in her room. When she helps pay the electric bill, she can have her lights back. That's the way it is in the real world afterall.. You don't pay, you sit in the dark!





I know it's harsh, but as lazy as she seems, is it really?





In all actuality, you're not setting a very good example for her. You mentioned being a security guard is the only job you wat. If you're having a hard time paying bills and helping your boyfriend, you need to take any job that's available. Flipping burgers isn't the most glamourous job, but hey- people need to eat, so burgers need to be flipped, and you get paid for doing it.





Not saying you can NEVER be a guard, but you need to do something for yourself. As long as your girl sees you sitting around being picky, she's going to be picky. How would it make you feel if she came up and said ';Mom, I wanna be a Security Guard and that's the only job I'm going to do!';





Set an example for your daughter. Quit being picky, get off your @$$ yourself, and help your boyfriend out with the bills.
ok. well I am 17 too and I don't have a job either. I, however, never ask my dad for money. I get $10 a week for allowance (my mom is deceased so I do alot around the house), and that is what I get by on. I save my money and I usually spend most of it on clothes. I know that's all the money I am going to get, until I get a job. I've applied a couple different places, but I'm not really hard core looking. I would tell you to not give her any money, and if she wants to buy something, she will have to get a job to pay for it. Or, if you can afford it, do the limited money thing. She gets a set amount and that's it. I'm pretty sure I will get a job soon, but right now I am trying to enjoy being a kid. Although this summer was really boring without a job, so I will probably get one soon. Good luck with finding a job.
you should tell her ';im sick of u not having a job not even helpin me around and just being a lazyass person, u should really fix up ur self b4 all ur doin right now is fun in games but later on ur goin 2 b a lazy bum not havin anythin u want in ur life, at least try 2 get a job lik me, im not just being lazy lik u im tryin.';





good luck :]