With my boyfriend of almost 2 years and 2 months(now fiances) child
And after testing for two weeks I decided to tell my mom
Even though all tests were false.
I had hoped my mom would be understanding and help me
Deal with all of the problems.
I was totally WRONG, she made me:
-Break up with my fiance(which she doesn't know about engagement)
-No phone
-No Driving
-No going out
-No talking to him period
Well two weeks later I was allowed to drive again without a phone to school and back
The next week I was given my phone for driving only
Well my step dad never made me give it back after school
So I always just put it in the kitchen to charge at night
Well a few nights later I had to stay with my grandparents
So I could take them somewhere early that next morning
Before school so that night him and i talked until 3 am
The most we've talked in a month.
So today I get invited to go bowling with my friends
And when I get home my step dad says give me your
Phone and here's this. A list of all my received and
Sent text messages. My mom was mad that I was talking
To him at 3 am. So I got my phone taken away again by her
My fiance is the best man in the world he does anything and everything for me without even thinking twice and even through all this he is still faithfully standing by my side.
My question is what do I do with my parents..
I want my mom to just unground me..
I've learned my lesson and just want to
Show her that I have %26amp; I dont want to hide
my fiance...
HELP!!!!!!!Need Honest Preferably Adult Advice But Teens are OK lol?
Look girl...I got pregnant at 16 and a couple months after that [before i started to show] i got married. You have your whole life ahead of you, trust me! Listen to me I walked down that path and it isn't pretty. I love my now 14 month old daughter and my husband of 2 years but If I could put my daughter and marriage on hold when I was 16 and waited until I was mature enough to actually want a baby and be able to care for it emotionally and financially with my husband...I would have done it. Look..you think that it's all over...that your parents are pissed and that this will never pass..honey you are wrong. You got a SECOND CHANCE TO DO THINGS RIGHT! TAKE ADVANTAGE OF IT!Need Honest Preferably Adult Advice But Teens are OK lol?
Your answer was excellent. I am now 38, been there done that. You summed it all up exquisitely.
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wow why are you engaged at 16 and why are you having unprotected sex to get pregnant, if you are going to do it then get some protection. I would do the same thing with my 16 yr old daughter.
You're way too young to be getting engaged and having babies. Your mom's reaction was in order given your age. Until you're 18 you need to follow your parents rules. Focus on school before you start thinking about marriage.
Yeah, this sounds about right.
You're too young to be engaged and too young to be having unprotected sex. Are you trying to get pregnant?
how old are you?
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Sorry your parents are right your way to young the best thing you can do...is sit down and talk NOT ARGUE about the issue
fiance? at 16......
honey im going to say something thats probably going to hurt your feelings...it wont last.
by the time you can legally get married without consent you both will be so different. there is a huge difference between 16 and18. you will want somebody else and so will he.
dont get tied down so young, its a HUGE mistake.
and DO NOT GET PREGNANT...thats an even bigger mistake. your 16 and you have a whole life time ahead of you to find a man and have babies. yeah i know there cute and they always love you but they are a hell of alot of work. when you get tired of it you cant put it away and come back when your interested again.
stop having sex, finish school, got to college and then worry about babies and husbands.
Your mom should ground you more. You obviously can't be trusted to make good decisions for yourself. There's no way you should be engaged, and having sex (especially unprotected) at 16. This wonderful ';man'; you're seeing is no kind of man. A man waits until his girlfriend is old enough before getting engaged. He wants the best for her, like getting an education, not getting knocked up at 16, and not sneaking around behind her parent's backs. You haven't learned any lesson at all.
It's probably hard for her to know that you're having sex, but she needs to accept it and start talking to you about what's going on in your personal life. Yes, you're having sex, but atleast you're not going around, sleeping with random men; you've been with this guy for quite some time. When I was 15, my mother found out I was dating an older guy and forbade me to see him, also grounded me and I lost phone privelages, but I just rebelled and they eventually gave up. Next month is our 5-year anniversary and we just had a baby almost 3 months ago. Your mom doesn't know what's going on and that's what she's afraid of, but she needs to talk to you. Just flat out tell her that you're disapointed in her for not being enough of a mother to talk to her daughter. Good luck and I hope things get better!
i am a mother of a 16 yo daughter and i would do the same as your parents. if this guy is worth it you will wait and better still he will wait for you. focus on your studies and your future and especially the future of any kids you are trying to bring into this world. besides they deserve better. get an education and some money behind you so your parents dont end up being the ones supporting you and your kids when you ';fiance'; leaves you
I commend you for telling your mom. And you say you hoped your mom will help you - I think she did, I just don't think you realize it. You are TOO YOUNG to be engaged. Also, if you're going to have sex - please make sure you have birth control!
I think your mom is doing the best she can for you. She doesn't want you to have a hard life, having a baby at 16, and has the good sense to know that your relationship with your BF is probably not for the best if you already suspected a pregnancy. I think when you are older you will realize this.
And your mom is not going to ';just unground'; you if you keep sneaking behind her back, texting - she can't trust you right now.
How old are you? How old is he? It sounds to me like he could be an adult messing with a minor child, which is statutory rape. If you're not a minor, but there is a large age gap, you need to be very cautious. Some men prefer it that way because it gives them all the control in the relationship, which can be dangerous for you.
The only way to be trusted again is to show them you're trustworthy! If it's true love, you can wait. It will last.
If your parents don't approve of him, you should look very carefully at the relationship, first to make sure that they're not seeing something you're missing (they do have more experience with life than you do), and second, to make sure that you truly love him and are not using him to defy your parents.
Sex doesn't make you an adult.
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